My life and health spiraling out of control..

For the past 6 years, I decided I was going to take "control" of my life by being independent and doing as I pleased since it was the first time in my life that I didn't have to answer to anyone. I lived at home with my parents until I was 25 and got married. I then moved in with my husband so I had never lived alone before. I did learn how to take care of things around my house, I took care of my animals by myself and I would tell myself that if I wanted to eat something, then I could eat it and not feel guilty. Needless to say, my weight which was already out of control, continued to increase.
Well, I trucked along eating my way through loneliness because not only was I not dating or in a relationship, but I didn't have very many friends at this time either. In October, 2009, I started not feeling well. I was having terrible headaches, dizziness and just felt like crud. I tried to make a doctor appointment because I felt like my blood pressure was spiking but it was a 3 week wait to get in to see the doctor. One evening, I ended up in the ER because I felt so sick and I did in fact have high blood pressure. When I finally got into my regular doc, she knew that my blood pressure problems were associated with my weight and was trying to find some way to help me find a solution to my problem. She said she wanted to go ahead and test me for diabetes because there is a diabetic medication that can sometimes assist with weight loss. When the blood test results came back, I did in fact have diabetes. I was absolutely devastated when I opened the lab results and ended up in tears. At this point, I knew something had to be done. I talked to my parents and told them I was going to take out a second mortgage on my house to pay for weight loss surgery. The surgery cost $12,500 and my insurance wouldn't pay a dime towards it. I applied for the loan and got approved within a couple of days. Then one day, my dad called me and said he wanted me to come over to talk to them before I signed any paperwork. I went over after work, they sat down with me and told me they wanted to help me with the surgery. They were each going to take out $6000 from their retirements and pay $12,000 towards my surgery. I protested but there is no winning when my dad has his mind made up. I scheduled an appointment with the weight loss doctor and got the ball rolling because I knew there would be lots to do before surgery.